There are lots of considerations to keep in mind when choosing a dildo. Here are the main features to look out for when you are buying a new dildo.

Choosing the right-sized dildo is important

When it comes to dildos, size matters! But what matters most is being comfortable with the size you opt for. Too big, and it may be uncomfortable, even painful. It’s also worth thinking about the girth of the toy when browsing different insertable lengths. It can be useful to gauge the rough sizes of other toys or partners you have encountered (and enjoyed!) to determine the right size for you.

Make sure to read product descriptions so you know what the size of the toy is before you purchase, as images onscreen can appear different than the real thing. At Lovehoney, we always add the insertable size of the product in the descriptions.

Solo play vs with a partner

If you’re looking to use your dildo with a partner, it is a good idea to get their opinion and preference before purchasing. If your partner is on the receiving end, you might want to discuss the measurements of your toy to ensure you’re both comfortable with your choice.

You may also wish to look at purchasing a strap on kit instead, to have all the supplies you need.

How do you decide what size is best for you?

First, determine whether you will be using your dildo vaginally or anally. Dildos used for anal penetration tend to be smaller and curved. Dildos used for vaginal penetration can be any size that is comfortable for you. A G-spot dildo is shorter and curved, whereas, if you want to massage the back of the vagina and cervix area, you will want a longer dildo.

Besides length, there is also girth or circumference to think about. To measure, try inserting one, two, or three fingers in your vagina or anus to what feels comfortable, and then measure the circumference of your fingers. That measurement should be the perfect size for your needs.

When shopping at Lovehoney, go to the dildos section, and then look in the sidebar to open the tabs for “insertable length” and “circumference” and click your desired options to help you narrow down your search.

Vibrating Dildos vs Vibrators: Which is best?

Dildos are different from vibrators, in that, most dildos do not vibrate. Although, there are “vibrating dildos” which can make the concept a bit confusing.

Vibrators usually come in a variety of shapes, and the majority of them are designed for clitoral stimulation or combined stimulation of the vagina and clitoris. Dildos are mainly used for penetration of either the vagina or anus, and most don’t stimulate the clitoris.

Dildos also tend to be more phallic in shape and appearance, whereas vibrators can be more whimsical, like rabbits, C-shaped, or have suction features. Many dildos are cast from the genitals of male porn stars, so they are ultra-realistic as well.

Both dildos and vibrators come in various materials and color options, as well as shapes.

There are many other differences, but the main difference is that dildos are for penetration purposes only, and vibrators have numerous purposes, and also vibrate.

Think about materials

Dildos come in lots of fun materials, from soft and squishy, to firm, hard, and everything in between. Generally speaking, the easier the material is to clean, the safer it is from the risk of infection.

Silicone: One of the best soft materials for dildos is silicone, which is hypoallergenic, 100% body-safe, and velvety smooth. Silicone is also non-porous and can be disinfected after use, therefore perfect for any type of insertion, including anal play.

TPE, TPR & Soft Plastic: Dildos made from these materials are the most realistic with a life-like flesh type of material that feels like the real thing. While these toys are often body-safe and phthalate-free, they are porous, so can’t be totally disinfected. Therefore, if you are using them for anal play, it is a good idea to use a condom to keep your toy clean.

Glass and Metal: Glass and metal are hard sex toy materials. The harder material is perfect for G-spot and P-spot play, and they can also be used for temperature play as well. They are also very hygienic, and like silicone, are non-porous.